For this blog I’m going to pretend that I’m in conversation with a 20-something me. There I was at 22, full of personal philosophies and misdirected half-wisdom. Now that I’m sitting comfortably across the table from my younger self, I’m going to allow my imagination to leap. I’ll pretend that I have a captive audience (laughing) of freshly graduated employees waiting to hear what I have to say. The first two things would be: try to relax more, and getting older really does help with self confidence, if only through the magic of familiarity with – and exposure to – your environment.
Trust your emotions
This is sometimes known as ‘going with your gut’, which can also lead directly to your closest gastrointestinal specialist. For the purposes of this advice, I’m going to focus on permanent, full-time work, if that’s your fancy. Personally, I gained most of my professional mastery as a contractor. Putting that aside, how you feel in any role is important. This applies from the time you read a job description, to starting on your first day. On a number of jobs I’ve taken, I’ve kept a work journal. Over a period of say 3 to 6 months, this has allowed me to chart my emotional reactions over time. It’s almost not worth including the first month, as this generally always feels like someone’s pouring you tonic faster than you can drink it. If a job is genuinely offering you a valuable experience, the emotional trajectory should be an upward one. Start a work journal, then pick through it after 3 months. See how the job fits.
Sometimes stick it out
There are many reasons why a good number of people have to stick jobs out: bills, mortgage payments, child payments, and various other ‘real adulthood’ stuff. I’m choosing here to focus on a time in life when career experimentation – and it’s freedoms – are generally more common – i.e. for those making their way into the market.
Don’t give up too soon. Life’s responsibilities aren’t the only reason to persist. For example, take time to consider the breadth of experience you might be gaining, and what you might do with it down the line. This includes how you might learn to articulate that experience with a greater degree of eloquence, all in the name of persuasion. Hang around another 3 months and you might find that things get better. For example, that cherished individual who’s been looking to battle you with a rolled-up A4 pad has left. Maybe you’ll even manage to get more control over the output of your work. Return to your work journal, analyse what’s there, but don’t panic. Panic means less pay, and potentially, an unsmooth exit.
Try not to blame specific people
This includes yourself. It’s easier to draw quick conclusions about why a job’s not working than it is to analyse the subtleties. Sometimes the detail is where you’re likely to find the real issues. Three last things then. Keep both eyes open when taking a job. Maintain a written record of what’s going on – use a journal. Follow your emotional trajectory. Most decisions become easier with evidence, perspective, and emotional proof.